The Mentor Couple
Relationship Coaching
About Us

We are Relationship Coaches.  We mentor couples and help them achieve a shared vision and a deeper connection.  We believe that each of us is drawn to the perfect partner for growth and healing and that conflict is the greatest opportunity to regain our wholeness. We teach the Intentional Dialogue, a transformational communication process that promotes understanding, validation and empathy.  This skill is also the primary tool we use in the workshops we lead.  Conscious Couplehood, our five-week program, has helped many couples join together with one common purpose: to have the relationship of their dreams.

We also lead Couples Circles, our signature work.  These circles are made up of couples seeking a more conscious relationship.  Within the circle, these committed couples are supported by others with similar challenges and dreams.  The Couples Circle is a safe environment for appreciating each other, becoming known on a deeper level and creating a more passionate, fulfilling connection.

We are dedicated to promoting a society in which love overcomes fear, a culture where people are validated for who they are and are encouraged to reach their highest potential and a world where reactivity is met with curiosity and compassion. 

How We Met

Our story has two beginnings. In the spring of 1966 we became high school sweethearts. The passion of first love was strong, and equally powerful were our disconnects. If only we had known then what we know now. Eventually, separated by distance and life choices, and with no clear understanding of why we struggled, we drifted apart.  Little did we know that this first encounter would serve us well later in life.

Our Relationship Training

After three decades, we reunited in early 2000, and our second beginning was like coming home. More mature this time around, we made the commitment to sustain our magical connection. Within a month, we attended "Getting the Love You Want," a relationship workshop. The weekend was both insightful and inspiring. The training helped us understand ourselves and each other in new ways. We were introduced to the Intentional Dialogue, a transformational tool that would prove to be the basis for truly knowing each other. The Dialogue helped us uncover and heal our deepest childhood wounds.  We now see our challenges as opportunities for growth, both as individuals and as a couple.

Current Practice

To deepen our relationship, we practice a daily ritual that includes a reading and a recitation of our relationship vision. We realize that building and maintaining the relationship of our dreams will last a lifetime. 

Our Journey

Our journey, which includes over fifteen years of workshops, conferences and training, took us to the home of Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt in Abiquiu, New Mexico. During our time there, in the fall of 2003, we founded, and later became presidents of, Imago Couples International. 

While in New Mexico we met David Steele, founder of Relationship Coaching Institute. With his encouragement we began taking the classes that would lead to our certification as Relationship Coaches. Now, in addition to our workshops and facilitation of Couples Circles, we enjoy a practice that has become our life's work.

Nevin and Darrell currently live in Irvine, California.

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